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Dec 2007 newsletter  by Rehana Webster

Tapping and parts Integration

At the end of October 2007, I presented at the EFT Master’s Showcase in Sydney. I wanted to really add value to what people would gain and learn from my demonstration using EFT. All 6 presenters were allotted one hour and 15 minutes each. This time period would include questions and answers as well.

I thought long and hard about what aspect to present using EFT. There are so many ways in which EFT dovetails in with so many other mainstream and alternative modalities. In the end I chose to show how EFT can be used so very effectively in a ‘double bind’ situation where a person feels an inner conflict and as if there are separate ‘parts’ inside
of the person creating the problems.

Since I was first up and had only arrived the night before I had not been able to scout the gathering to find a ready and willing participant who would come up on stage for the demonstration. So, I spent the first 10 minutes explaining what a double bind situation is considered to be. Then I asked for a volunteer and some one in the first row put his hand up readily. Let’s call him Sam. Sam was stuck because he couldn’t make a decision about some investments. If he went one way, he said he would not feel ‘good’ about it and if he went the other way, he would still not feel ‘good’ about the decision. So he was in a bind, damned if he did and damned if he didn’t..

I explained to the audience that the first thing to do was to establish that there was a double bind where the person felt ‘stuck’ about a problem. Once done, then the next step is to separate the 2 ‘identities’ and get the client to define and describe each ‘part’, what it looks like, feels like, sounds like, dresses like, body language, age, etc.

The two ‘parts’ are externalized and positioned one on the left and the other on the right hand side. Then I ask the client to give me a rating from 0 – 10 on each of them. The ratings could be the same or different. Sometimes one ‘part’ is definite stronger than the other. One part is controlling the behaviour which the client wants to change or overcome.

I either tap on the client or get them to tap along with me. We tap on all the negative aspects of either personality till the client feels accepting of one or both the parts. I suggest to the client that while tapping the client have a conversation with the parts, one at a time and ask what the positive intention is for the particular behaviour. NLP practitioners will immediately recognize this process. One a benefit is established for either behaviours, then the task is to ask each part if it could work with the other so that the client can move ahead, and change old patterns. Tapping all the while the negotiations are being worked out, noticing how the client starts to relax and accept both parts.

The last section of this process is of course to bring the two parts together, to get them to integrate and become one. Using the visualization technique to have the client imagine the two separate parts walking towards each other and embracing when the meet. Asking the clients to imagine that the parts melt into one another and become one, a new part, made up of all the desirable and valuable traits of each part, so that there is a new and vibrant strength in the ‘new part’. Tapping all the time as the client visualizes the integration and asking the client to take in a deep breath and breathing in the new part into themselves. Have the client visualize that the new part will settle right into them, cause that’s where it belongs, stronger, and wiser and more confident than ever. Imagining that the changes will be immediate, unconscious, and natural. Each and every cell in the clients body will just know what to do and how.

If the client wishes to share this new image, vision, feeling have them describe what the integration is like for them.

At the Showcase, it was so evident to the client and the audience as I took him through the process, separating the energies and patterns and reintegrating them. Even before I could completely finish the client was way ahead of me and saying the he had the problem fixed, he know exactly what he was going to do.