The Methods and Mindsets of the EFT Masters  Part Four

(Beyond remedial uses – Using EFT to create new futures and new ways of being.)

I believe we have come to this list not just to solve problems. Rather, I think we need to consider what we are ultimately aiming to produce in our lives – and then look at how we can use these techniques to facilitate bringing ourselves into more positive ways of being.

I am interested in the concept of generative change rather than remedial change. This is about creating small changes that build on each other exponentially until our whole life is turned around.

I believe when we consider questions such as the following, we tap into a whole new direction for using these techniques:

• What would be good to create in my life?
• What would be worthwhile to do with the rest of my life?
• What would I like to do? What would be fun to do?
• What sort of person would I like to become ultimately?

The moment you ask these questions, there will be blocks. This is good and it is one of the reasons I believe we have been given EFT – to help us move beyond the points at which we become stuck. If we have used EFT to resolve some problems but have not extended our goals out even further (until we feel some resistance) I believe we are not tapping into the full power of these techniques. EFT, in this sense, can become a tool for personal evolution by getting us in touch with the "possible human" and clearing the "pathway to becoming."

What is one method of doing this?

I like to start by having people identify how they would like to be as a person. If we work on changing our identity we can change our whole life. As Zig Ziglar says “You will never perform consistently in a manner that is inconsistent with how you define yourself.”

Recently, in a corporate group, I worked with a lady who said she did not really have any goals. She said she was quite happy with her life and being the way she was. I am always on the lookout to find a person who, when they say this, I can truly believe. That person I am sure will have achieved true victory over self. Until I see total congruency in the person making these statements I tend to see their words as a cover for fear and a limiting way of thinking about self.

We looked at the first statement she came up with, “I’m just an ordinary person,” as a current belief. Without objecting to this or passing judgment, I then had her consider the opposite belief “I’m an extraordinary person”. I had her say this alternative belief aloud, which to her felt totally untrue, not even desirable. Then I had her do three rounds of EFT. The first round she focused on the current belief (Even though I’m just an ordinary person). The second round she focused on the alternative belief (Even though I am an extraordinary person). And the third round she focused on each belief interchangeably (I’m an ordinary person/I’m an extraordinary person).

After these three rounds she brightened considerably (Previously when she described herself as an ordinary person her jaw was set and her face was dark). She excitedly stated “I guess I really AM an extraordinary person.” Not only that, her previous way of thinking about herself and her life no longer had any appeal – it was dull and unattractive to her now. Lifeless. It didn’t feel true at all. And her goals had changed. She was now able to look in directions that she was previously unable to consider – and felt optimistic towards changing her life.

If you want to really change your life, consider how you define yourself to yourself. Think of how you would like to be. And then apply EFT to the internal objections which arise to the idea of being that NOW. Continue until you get a real feeling of congruency (‘thou art that’). What usually follows is a real feeling of excitement and unleashing of personal power and positive potential.

This is only one of the many ways we can use EFT to assist us in the process of building new futures.

Steve Wells